If you turn your television to CMT around 9:30 tonight, you might see a familiar face.
Bobby Grey, who graduated from Exeter High School in 2002, will be featured on the CMT special, “Ron White’s Comedy Salute to the Troops.”
Grey, 31, now of Thomasville, N.C., served in Iraq in the Marines. That tour left him struggling with post-traumatic stress disorder. PTSD ultimately led him to attempt suicide. As an ambassador for the Armed Forces Foundation, Grey shares his story with other soldiers to dispel stigmas and encourage others to seek help.
When the terrorist attacks happened on Sept. 11, 2001, Grey was a senior in high school. He decided then that he would join the Marine Corps.Grey left for boot camp in December 2003 and was deployed to Iraq by September of the following year.
He said it was a pretty quick turnaround for a 19-year-old, going from a classroom to a combat zone.
Leaving the Marines in 2007, Grey fell deep into depression, experiencing survivor’s guilt and PTSD. This culminated on Memorial Day 2013.
Grey has no memories of that fateful day. What he knows of the day comes from his wife, Kia, and neighbors.That day Grey posted on Facebook about his buddies who had died at his feet after a truck bomb exploded in Iraq. When he arrived home from work, he fought with his wife, taking out his anger on her. Grey went to the bedroom, trying to cool his temper, so Kia gave him space.
Then Kia’s phone rang. Grey doesn’t know if he pocket-dialed his wife, but when she picked up the phone, Kia heard the sound of a struggle. She found him hanging from a tree in the backyard by an electrical cord.
Kia’s screams reached the neighbor’s ears. Together, they cut Grey down and called 9-1-1. Kia performed CPR on her husband’s limp body until the ambulance arrived.
“If she wasn’t there, we wouldn’t have Bobby here today,” said Ricky Grey, 23, of Exeter Township, Bobby’s younger brother.
When Bobby Grey woke up from a coma in the hospital two weeks later, he had no idea what had happened.
For the next year, he attended his counseling sessions and PTSD classes at the Department of Veterans Affairs facility.
“I still didn’t believe it was me,” he said. “I didn’t want to have PTSD.”
Finally, he realized he was going to fall back into deep depression if he didn’t fight back. He decided to make a video to tell his story, down to the last gritty detail.
Bobby Grey had been worried about the stigma of PTSD. But he found that by telling his story, he helped others find strength to face PTSD. Now, he has told his story to other veterans at various events, been on two television shows on Fox, and tonight he will appear on CMT. In telling his story, he has found that he is not alone.
Grey’s advice for veterans struggling with PTSD is that “not talking is your worst enemy.”
Once you start speaking up, he said, veterans will find “there are more people for you than there are against you.”